Q&A on angry words

In the previous post, I have shared some limited beliefs that make angry words easily burst out from your mouse. I know many of you will agree with what I said in that post, but there are still some questions to be answered:

1. Will I be looked down upon if I keep back those angry words?

Remember that the true power comes from your within. Your cool head, peaceful mind and tolerant attitude are the greatest and strongest powers in others’s eyes.

If you can be easily annoyed, you are not among the brave and the wise. In their eyes, a man who is easy to become angry is also easy to be defeated or even looked down upon.

Keep peaceful, open minded and always have a light smile on your face, then you will be respected and admired by others. They will be amazed why you can get so calm to deal with anything, whether it is little or big troublesome thing.

2. Why can he/she speak out the angry words but I can’t?

The answer is you want to be a real wise and strong man/woman.

You can act just as he or she does, but if you would do it, you will lose your power and freedom to seek for your own greatness, wisdom and inner power. You let your partner guide your words, emotions and even actions. In one word, in that moment, you let others create your own reality.

You keep silent just because you want to grow up in the physical world, in fact, in your heart, you also want to get improved in your inner world. When you calm down, you will feel fortunate and pride that you take the right action and step closer to a more perfect you.

3. It is his/her wrong, why can’t I let the angry words out?

In fact, I don’t think it is easy to really keep back angry words if you don’t know the law of attraction. Here, I suppose that you are familiar with the law of attraction or at least know of it. if not, please refer to some books, such as “ask and it is given” and “the secret“. If you want to get peaceful and really great and strong, you can’t miss them.

It is only you who attract everything into your life, including the bad situations you don’t want to experience. your negative thoughts, ideas, actions and words create your now experience.

So It is only you too who can change the present situation. yes, you can let everything be, just by default, but what you will get? perhaps better or perhaps worse. But if you decide to take your responsibility deliberately, you will change your experience.

And so you should keep back and clear anger from your heart and body for they can only attract the same things. Your partner is just the imagination in your own reality. You are a watcher in your own world( if you want to find scientific evidences or explanations, watch the movie “what the bleep do we know” ).

4. If I keep silent, will he/she change to keep silent too?

The correct answer is uncertain. but don’t feel disappointed. compared with the situation that the angry words were let out, the current will be better and you will experience shorter unhappy period too.

But I don’t mean that you can change your partner too. In fact, you can’t change him/her at any time directly. There exists no any magic power that can control him/her to let him/her change. But although they will not change, but in your eyes, they are changing.

This is just the magic and great power that the law of attraction has. You can’t change him/her, but you can attract his/her goodness into your physical world(what you are seeing, hearing, smelling, touching and feeling) if you are sending out vibrations that represent good feelings.

So the true result, in your eyes, you will find he/she is changed to keep silent more than before. but perhaps in others eyes, they keep the same as before.

5. Can I only speak out just one angry word?

No, the best is to keep any angry word back. Angry word has big negative vibration, which is once sent out, will attract more. that is to say, one angry word will attract more negative vibrations from your partners, no matter they are in actions or in words or just thoughts.

6. What shall I do if I am still very angry although I keep silent?

first, keep silent, then try to meditate for 10~15 minutes. After these activities, ask yourself: what do I really want from my partner?
with this question, begin your smile meditation or mental appreciation.

Don’t think this process will take you too much time. it is only 30 minutes. But what you will get? Stepping closer to your inner self and getting greater, wiser and stronger.

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Mental appreciation

Since I posted a blog about the difference between appreciation and gratitude, I have begun to use appreciation instead of gratitude little by little.

Appreciation is a kind of higher and unconditional love compared with gratitude. It has greater power to make our desires manifested in the physical world.

I have practiced appreciation for a long time. but most of the time, I don’t appreciate things or people directly through words or any other physical actions. Instead, I usually mentally appreciate them.

what is mental appreciation?

The below is just my own definition on mental appreciation:

mental appreciation means expressing your appreciation during the process of meditation,creative visualization, or pink love process.

Mental appreciation says that you can say “thank you” or “I love you” in the virtual reality created by yourself. Your mind has absolute freedom, so it is free for you to do mental appreciation anytime and anywhere.

why mental appreciation?

There are some situations that we can’t directly express appreciation, for example:

• the things or people that you want to appreciate are not before you
• the things you appreciate have not happen
• you feel it is difficult or embarrassing to express appreciation directly
• ……

I have said I used mental appreciation more often than directly express appreciation. The reason are mainly because of the above situations.

Generally speaking, I always appreciate mentally before doing important or difficult things.

for example, if I want to visit a difficult custom, I will first perform mental appreciation for the visit. In the mental appreciation, I will appreciate him for his kindness, his help and goodness. I also will appreciate and visualize the perfect result that I hope. And always, the real result is satisfying.

How to practice mental appreciation?

Just like the pink love process, the mental appreciation process is simple. But it still needs practice.

The overall steps for mental appreciation are:

• 1 enter into a calm state
• 2 make clear the things or people you want to mental appreciate
• 3 visualize a warm, harmony, exciting and happy image in your mind, say “thank you” to the things or people in it, say “I love you” to them and give them a warm hug.
• 4 visualize they are saying what you want to you, doing what you desire for you and giving valuable suggestions to you and so on. appreciate the words and acts from them. appreciate the YOU in the image at last.

Isn’t the process easy? The key is the feelings you get from the visualization and the process of appreciation. You can also use pink love process as the extra steps if you like.

when and where to practice mental appreciation?

Although I mention that it is better to come into peaceful state before mental appreciation, you can still do it any time.

You take responsibility for your own state. Once you are aware of this and treat this seriously, you can get peaceful at any time, any place.

Mental appreciation can be finished in just minutes. It doesn’t matter how long the process lasts. One minute-appreciation can works too if only you are really in the appreciation state.

wherever you are, if you want to appreciate mentally, close your eyes and do it. you will find little by little that it is easier to be in the appreciation and love.

Close your eyes, then create your own world in your mind. Open your eyes, and then find your mental image in the physical world.

Bless you, my all dear friends.

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