The movie “the secret” and all the books on law of attraction tell us that negative thoughts will bring more negative things to our life. so many people feel it a must to monitor everyday thoughts, but I have to say that thoughts can not be monitored and should not be monitored.
Thoughts can not be monitored completely
For thoughts, what we can pay attention to is only a drop in the ocean. Every minute we all create too many thoughts, but we can only be aware of few part of it.
We have the limited capacity of dealing with thoughts which change frequently, so it is impossible to monitor thoughts completely. especially, if we monitor one, we perhaps lose the other more.
Thoughts should not be monitored
What we pay attention to will attract more of the same. The direct goal to monitor thoughts before is to make us stay in match with wealth, health and happiness, but since we can’t monitor all the thoughts, we then can not achieve this goal through monitoring thoughts.
But we can capture our feelings and deliberately change them. thoughts will create feelings and it is easier to grasp all the feelings on the NOW.
I caught a cold in the past two days. with simple traditional chinese medicine , several mental and spritual methods and enough sleep, I recovered in only one day. But in this experiencing of illness, I found an effective word that has been igored by me for a long time: we.
Before I fell asleep, I always practicedthe simple but effective life changing sentences. once when I have repeated the four sentences for several times, I felt that my whole body was becoming light and weightless. It seemed that I was floating on the air.
Just then, I began to repeat the sentence “I love you” to myself. Suddenly, I got an idea which said why not changing “I love you” to “we love you”. I did that.
The result was amazing. I felt great love coming to me from all the direction( at that moment, I felt I was floating on the air ). The comfortable feelings filled my body like warm water. I felt I was endless and at the same time, I was ONE.
Those were so magic and wonderful feelings. during the next periods in that day, I repeated the sentence “we love you” to myself and tried to relive that moment.
Only changing a word, I felt a great change in love. Even now, I feel fortunate that It is not too late for me to realize this small change.
At last, just enjoy one of my favorite love video from Louise L. Hay:
In the previous post, I have shared some limited beliefs that make angry words easily burst out from your mouse. I know many of you will agree with what I said in that post, but there are still some questions to be answered:
1. Will I be looked down upon if I keep back those angry words?
Remember that the true power comes from your within. Your cool head, peaceful mind and tolerant attitude are the greatest and strongest powers in others’s eyes.
If you can be easily annoyed, you are not among the brave and the wise. In their eyes, a man who is easy to become angry is also easy to be defeated or even looked down upon.
Keep peaceful, open minded and always have a light smile on your face, then you will be respected and admired by others. They will be amazed why you can get so calm to deal with anything, whether it is little or big troublesome thing.
2. Why can he/she speak out the angry words but I can’t?
The answer is you want to be a real wise and strong man/woman.
You can act just as he or she does, but if you would do it, you will lose your power and freedom to seek for your own greatness, wisdom and inner power. You let your partner guide your words, emotions and even actions. In one word, in that moment, you let others create your own reality.
You keep silent just because you want to grow up in the physical world, in fact, in your heart, you also want to get improved in your inner world. When you calm down, you will feel fortunate and pride that you take the right action and step closer to a more perfect you.
3. It is his/her wrong, why can’t I let the angry words out?
In fact, I don’t think it is easy to really keep back angry words if you don’t know the law of attraction. Here, I suppose that you are familiar with the law of attraction or at least know of it. if not, please refer to some books, such as “ask and it is given” and “the secret“. If you want to get peaceful and really great and strong, you can’t miss them.
It is only you who attract everything into your life, including the bad situations you don’t want to experience. your negative thoughts, ideas, actions and words create your now experience.
So It is only you too who can change the present situation. yes, you can let everything be, just by default, but what you will get? perhaps better or perhaps worse. But if you decide to take your responsibility deliberately, you will change your experience.
And so you should keep back and clear anger from your heart and body for they can only attract the same things. Your partner is just the imagination in your own reality. You are a watcher in your own world( if you want to find scientific evidences or explanations, watch the movie “what the bleep do we know” ).
4. If I keep silent, will he/she change to keep silent too?
The correct answer is uncertain. but don’t feel disappointed. compared with the situation that the angry words were let out, the current will be better and you will experience shorter unhappy period too.
But I don’t mean that you can change your partner too. In fact, you can’t change him/her at any time directly. There exists no any magic power that can control him/her to let him/her change. But although they will not change, but in your eyes, they are changing.
This is just the magic and great power that the law of attraction has. You can’t change him/her, but you can attract his/her goodness into your physical world(what you are seeing, hearing, smelling, touching and feeling) if you are sending out vibrations that represent good feelings.
So the true result, in your eyes, you will find he/she is changed to keep silent more than before. but perhaps in others eyes, they keep the same as before.
5. Can I only speak out just one angry word?
No, the best is to keep any angry word back. Angry word has big negative vibration, which is once sent out, will attract more. that is to say, one angry word will attract more negative vibrations from your partners, no matter they are in actions or in words or just thoughts.
6. What shall I do if I am still very angry although I keep silent?
first, keep silent, then try to meditate for 10~15 minutes. After these activities, ask yourself: what do I really want from my partner?
with this question, begin your smile meditation or mental appreciation.
Don’t think this process will take you too much time. it is only 30 minutes. But what you will get? Stepping closer to your inner self and getting greater, wiser and stronger.
[tags]temper control, angry words, control temper, law of attraction, meditation, mental appreciation[tags]
