The biggest myth about feelings is that we always take feelings as a part of us.
Pay attention to your words, which sentence you used more, “I feel angry” and “I am angry”?
Many friends take these two sentences as the same. if so, you are just landing yourself in deeper and deeper trouble.
When you say “I am angry” , you mean anger is one part of yourself. and if you feel extremly angry, you take anger as yourself. YOU LOST YOURSELF so as to let your feelings control you.
If you choose “I feel angry”, you take anger as the thing outside of yourself. It is easier to drop the external thing than the inner thing. And more importantly, to realize that your anger is not in YOU and it is only something outside of you are the bases to release them and get inner peace back. In this way, you begin to take your power and use it.
Which is easier for you, find things to say yes or find things to say NO?
Honestly speaking, many people will find it is easier to find and obsessed by unwanted things.
Yes, we all love things that make us joyful. but it is not a good idea if we try to resist or worry about the bad things.
What we call “bad” is only our own definition. It is our own subjective opinions on the objective things. Ask for suggestions on the same thing from your friends, and you will get different answers. Why?
It is just because every thing has morn than one side.
Try changing your thinking habit and find positive side from any things. If you say no to one thing, then now you can try to find what you really want from the unwanted thing and say yes to it.
Confirm yourself about the present situation and find what you really want from it. you can achieve this just through asking yourself one simple question:
Yes, I feel unhappy or angry or mistaken or neglected now, and I really don’t like these feelings, But what Do I Really Want?
Take time every day to find proofs that make you feel good and say yes to them. Every time you come across unwanted things, dig them, think them over and try to say yes to them, then you will get easier to find good from them.
About saying yes to things in daily life, I found a personal video example. It is all about saying yes to so called good or bad things. Just enjoy it and ask yourself one simple question: what will I say yes to today?