The biggest myth about feelings

What is the biggest myth on feelings?

The biggest myth about feelings is that we always take feelings as a part of us.

Pay attention to your words, which sentence you used more, “I feel angry” and “I am angry”?

Many friends take these two sentences as the same. if so, you are just landing  yourself in deeper and deeper trouble.

When you say “I am angry”  , you mean anger is one part of yourself. and if you feel extremly angry, you take anger as yourself. YOU LOST YOURSELF so as to let your feelings control you.

If you choose “I feel angry”, you take anger as the thing outside of yourself. It is easier to drop the external thing than the inner thing. And more importantly, to realize that your anger is not in YOU and it is only something outside of you are the bases to release them and get inner peace back. In this way, you begin to take your power and use it.

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Q&A on angry words

In the previous post, I have shared some limited beliefs that make angry words easily burst out from your mouse. I know many of you will agree with what I said in that post, but there are still some questions to be answered:

1. Will I be looked down upon if I keep back those angry words?

Remember that the true power comes from your within. Your cool head, peaceful mind and tolerant attitude are the greatest and strongest powers in others’s eyes.

If you can be easily annoyed, you are not among the brave and the wise. In their eyes, a man who is easy to become angry is also easy to be defeated or even looked down upon.

Keep peaceful, open minded and always have a light smile on your face, then you will be respected and admired by others. They will be amazed why you can get so calm to deal with anything, whether it is little or big troublesome thing.

2. Why can he/she speak out the angry words but I can’t?

The answer is you want to be a real wise and strong man/woman.

You can act just as he or she does, but if you would do it, you will lose your power and freedom to seek for your own greatness, wisdom and inner power. You let your partner guide your words, emotions and even actions. In one word, in that moment, you let others create your own reality.

You keep silent just because you want to grow up in the physical world, in fact, in your heart, you also want to get improved in your inner world. When you calm down, you will feel fortunate and pride that you take the right action and step closer to a more perfect you.

3. It is his/her wrong, why can’t I let the angry words out?

In fact, I don’t think it is easy to really keep back angry words if you don’t know the law of attraction. Here, I suppose that you are familiar with the law of attraction or at least know of it. if not, please refer to some books, such as “ask and it is given” and “the secret“. If you want to get peaceful and really great and strong, you can’t miss them.

It is only you who attract everything into your life, including the bad situations you don’t want to experience. your negative thoughts, ideas, actions and words create your now experience.

So It is only you too who can change the present situation. yes, you can let everything be, just by default, but what you will get? perhaps better or perhaps worse. But if you decide to take your responsibility deliberately, you will change your experience.

And so you should keep back and clear anger from your heart and body for they can only attract the same things. Your partner is just the imagination in your own reality. You are a watcher in your own world( if you want to find scientific evidences or explanations, watch the movie “what the bleep do we know” ).

4. If I keep silent, will he/she change to keep silent too?

The correct answer is uncertain. but don’t feel disappointed. compared with the situation that the angry words were let out, the current will be better and you will experience shorter unhappy period too.

But I don’t mean that you can change your partner too. In fact, you can’t change him/her at any time directly. There exists no any magic power that can control him/her to let him/her change. But although they will not change, but in your eyes, they are changing.

This is just the magic and great power that the law of attraction has. You can’t change him/her, but you can attract his/her goodness into your physical world(what you are seeing, hearing, smelling, touching and feeling) if you are sending out vibrations that represent good feelings.

So the true result, in your eyes, you will find he/she is changed to keep silent more than before. but perhaps in others eyes, they keep the same as before.

5. Can I only speak out just one angry word?

No, the best is to keep any angry word back. Angry word has big negative vibration, which is once sent out, will attract more. that is to say, one angry word will attract more negative vibrations from your partners, no matter they are in actions or in words or just thoughts.

6. What shall I do if I am still very angry although I keep silent?

first, keep silent, then try to meditate for 10~15 minutes. After these activities, ask yourself: what do I really want from my partner?
with this question, begin your smile meditation or mental appreciation.

Don’t think this process will take you too much time. it is only 30 minutes. But what you will get? Stepping closer to your inner self and getting greater, wiser and stronger.

[tags]temper control, angry words, control temper, law of attraction, meditation, mental appreciation[tags]

step by step to enhance daily affirmation with creative visualization

creative visualization and daily affirmation are both effective ways to attract wealth,health and happiness.but how to do it step by step？Here is my personal experience:
  

Step 1. close your eyes,

Step 2. breathe gently，

Step 3. imagine there is a blackboard in front of you, adjust its color,position,size and distance from you to make you feel comfortable
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